Profiles Say A Lot
Even those that don’t say much

Photos

Dating profiles make your first impression. It can also be your first lie. If your pictures are 5-10 years old or your very best shot. You know, the one that even you think you look good. Then it’s not exactly being honest with people. Now is it? Sure, it’s a picture of you, but it’s probably not the person someone is going to come face to face with. That would be a lie. Don’t do that to yourself or to someone else.

Pictures of someone holding a phone, in front of a bathroom mirror or in a dressing room is so tacky, almost to a point of wanting to hide that your needing a picture of yourself or you would ask someone to take a few for you. Being on an internet dating site is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s a great way to meet people. We didn’t use to have such an avenue to take. You are simply using other resources that are now available. If your able, either have someone take your picture or if your phone has a delay timer, get a tripod for it. These are usually around $10 or less at Walgreen’s and they fit most smart phones. It will be well worth it, I assure you. Profiles and their pictures say a lot about someone, so be truthful.

Have a close up and a full body shot. You are who you are, own it or do something about it, but be honest about it. Be sure to see my Security page before posting your pictures. You do not want your pics someplace you do not want them to be. My advise will help you have more peace of mind and allow you to seek for what your hoping to find. Don’t let frauds win!

Buddy or Companion

Men

Are you looking for a buddy to go to sporting events and  embark on motorcycle rides together or are you looking for a woman? Sure you love your bike, understandable. Woman see photos of your bike or other toys and they tend to see them as something that will make them compete with these things, for your attention. “If you don’t like Harley’s then we won’t get along”. This kind of statement may just be cutting yourself a bit short on possibilities.

Go riding with the guys and come home for cuddles with your lady. You do not have to do everything together. You do not have to have exact same tastes in activities to be good companions. Your friends are for things like that. You best friend does not have to do everything you do, nor do you always have to do what they do. “Let’s take a weekend ride to a B&B”, she would probably love that, but not everything, every time, unless of course, she is into riding as much as you.

You have to consider as well. What if something happens that one of you do not care to ride or can’t? Will this cause the relationship to end? Put what really matters in your profile first, then introduce the other things as you get to know one another.

Women

Lady’s, men are not feminine and are not emotional like women tend to be. If your looking for a girlfriend, go make friends with another woman and search for a man to be your companion. You also have to remember, men are always going to be boys and they like their toys.

Men are not much for texting back and forth, they would rather be doing something fun. Most do not like to share their feeling right off the bat and they would rather meet face to face versus long talks on the phone or chatting. Their profiles will often be very short, they tend to not pay attention to details, like spelling and complete sentences. I’m often guilty of judging men by their poor use of grammar, but then again, I’d like to find an intelligent man, so it seems to be a factor, for me. I may be ruling out a perfect match because they whipped out their profile on their phone and didn’t pay attention to what it looks like.

Like I said, Men rarely pay attention to detail. They will want to “show off” like a peacock spreading his tail out. If they do not read my tips, they will not know that their profiles may be viewed differently than it was meant to be viewed. They have pride that is more prominent than it is with women.

Be Honest and Up Front

Take the time to create a good profile. If you rush into it, so you can hurry up and view your options, it will often say you are not seriously looking for someone to share your life with. When your separated and you have a pic of you half naked or laying in bed, it WILL give the impression your simply playing the field now that you are nearly free. When your playing the field, say so, there are plenty of others doing the exact same thing and you will be more likely to find what your looking for. If your not playing the field, don’t make it look as if you are, even if you simply wanted to show what great shape you are in…have a little class and dignity for Pete’s sake.

When you don’t like the answer you had choose from in the sites required fields, let the reader know why you chose the answer you entered. If you have no kids and entered you do not want kids and you really DO NOT want your partner to have kids then say so. The reader can view this many ways. You do not want to have children with the person you seek. You do not want them to have children either or you don’t want them to have children still living at home.

I tend to have profiles that are very long, too long as a matter of fact. I really dislike how dating websites all seem to have the same faulty basic function. First you must answer several questions, with answers they provide for you to choose from. Then you have to try to explain who you are. Now you have to put into words what your looking for in a partner. I’m at a loss on this one. You can find someone who is perfect for you and you seem to be perfect for them, as far as your profiles go, but when you meet, if the chemistry is not there, then there is simply no hope.

You may want to make adjustments often to your profile to help you find what your looking for. If you seem to be attracting a certain type of person too often, then make it clear in your profile you do not like something or that you really like it when……

Before internet dating, people would meet face to face first. Something would draw two people together and it would go from there. Unless your looking for something other than love, dating sites are not the best way to find it. Personally, I think speed dating is the way to go. No profiles to create. You meet face to face, you can see body language. You have eye contact and can feel the energy people put out . It allows you to see how they interact with others. You do not have to use so many precautions when your speed dating and you can bring a friend 🙂

I’ll be adding more to this page I’m sure. I’ll use a different font or color so it can easily be found. Be sure to check the Notions and Needs FB page for any updates or revisions.