Singles

People-Perspectives-Personalities

These pages are primarily for singles. Insights about people, perspectives and personalities. What I have learned and experienced over the last few decades. If your contemplating divorce, you've never been married, your in a relationship or your wanting to be in a relationship, you just may find a few things in these pages to help you out. I'll have tips, reviews, notions and even share some of my needs as a woman that is middle aged and single in the 21st Century.
People are indeed strange creatures and we are not at all like other mammals, because we all look and act differently. We will often ignore our instincts, whereas, animals do not. It's all they have to go by, we have far too many other choices. Far too many options and way to many factors to consider.

People

Some people like being single. Nothing wrong with that. Some can take it or leave it. That's fine too. Some dislike it, such as myself and that is often a difficult situation to tackle. There are so many factors to consider when it comes to relationships. People are all wired a bit differently. They have different likes and dislikes. Even people who are raised in the same household often can not even get along. Finding someone that you can share your life with should not be as hard as it is, yet for some reason it is very difficult if your not one to settle for less than perfect (for you). Finding someone to be with just so you are not alone is easy, but it is far from perfect and someone, if not both, will not be happy. You have to make a choice, which do you dislike more, being alone or being unhappy and is your partner going to feel the same way. You always have to consider the other person's feelings on this. Partnership, means two, couple, together. Consideration is so important.

 Perspective

There is a song that always makes me cry, I'm afraid the days of relationships like this are for an era that is now gone. As long as I can remember, all I've ever wanted, was to be "Somebody's Chelsea". I am beginning to give up hope of that ever becoming a reality, but not quite yet. I have always been stubborn as a mule and hate giving up on something I believe in. When I was young, I had a big misconception about people and relationships. I thought everyone was pretty much on the same page when it comes to relationships. Boy was I wrong. Some, are not even reading the same book. When it comes to people and what makes them tick, I guess nothing is off the table any more. Get a different point of view from someone who has met a lot of people, has watched a lot of people and that gets misunderstood quite often. Mostly because they just don't understand that I'm not like most people. People just don't do the things I do. They do, they are just few and far between. I always try to treat others the way I wish to be treated, even if they do me wrong. Everything happens for a reason, who am I to pass judgment on those who have their reason for what they do.

Personality

What makes people who they are? What factors determine what makes them laugh? What makes them cry? What makes them not cry, when they should? They say you can not judge a book by it's cover, which is very true. You can however, pick up on a few things that can lead you to a judgement. Most likely it will be incorrect, except for one, which is always right. It's attraction, a superficial attraction, but you do know if you are attracted to someone by their photo. They may open their mouth and say two sentences and the attraction will fly like the wind, but initially, it was an attraction.  You can not base a relationship on this kind of attraction. I've seen some really attractive people, get ugly real fast. I've seen some initial, "not attractive" people, become a sight for sore eyes. You need to interact with their personality, before you can determine if a person it truly attractive...... to you.
Personalities are so individual and are also brought about at a very early age quite often, perhaps even born with certain dispositions. Maybe brought on by experiences in the womb. Mom keeps eating dairy and it makes the fetus uncomfortable for some reason. This child may have a different personality, than the exact same fetus, that mom didn't eat dairy. We do not know why people are the way they are, why they think the way they think, what roads they have traveled or people they have met that may have influenced their personality. We simply have a choice, either we choose to have this person be a part of our life or we choose not to. Another choice would be, to simply tolerate them. One of the choices, is not to harm them or cause them pain, that would make you no better than them. If that is the case, then I guess someone else should do the same to you,...... right? We should not judge others, only one's self. Just maybe, something you dislike about someone else, is looking right back at you in the mirror.

Content

As I add content to this part of the Notions and Needs site, I will add links at the bottom of this page as well as my most recent posts. Since I add content often I will not alphabetize the links menu, so readers will be able to easily find new content. On the Notions and Needs Facebook page you will be notified that I have added content, as well, so check in often to see what's new.