Will provide insight, experiences, suggestions and resources that may come in handy for single women and men. It’s not easy being single at 50 and it’s even harder to find someone to share your life with. Seems so many are set in their ways. Hard to find someone who is not judgmental, who can simply give their heart to another without reservation. Perhaps I am asking for too much.

I do not hold much hope of finding someone I can spend the rest of my life with. I’m not going to give up, but I’m not going to factor in a significant other as I contemplate my future life. It’s hard enough to be a single woman at 50, even harder being one with medical issues and my most valuable assets are a caring, loving heart and companionship. I have no steady job, no savings, a house I will probably have to give away if I ever need to move and limited abilities . I did just buy a pretty nice 2006 mini van for less than 3K, so I once again have transportation. I can’t tell you how much that was needed.

I’m kind of hoping that once I launch this website and my visitor numbers are good, I can generate some sort of income with advertisers and such. It may allow me to be a bit more attractive if I can support myself. A housewife, taking care of the home and family, is no longer an attractive quality for women. If it were, I’d be at the top of the list……*big ole grin

I can’t be with someone, just so I’m not alone. I will have to love the person I am with and they will have to love me. Funny thing, it’s all I ever dreamed of, all I’ve ever wanted ever since I was a little girl….yet it has eluded me.  I’m not only a high risk employee (because of my health), I’m a high risk girlfriend. One that may need extensive care some day, but do we not all have this same risk factor, one never knows what lies in our future, however, I guess the odds are a bit better for me. I believe a person’s value lies within their nature, their compassion, their understanding and their over all personality.

I met a man right near the end of my divorce process, in fact we met face to face the day before I was to sign the final papers. It wasn’t love at first sight, but after we talked and walked for a while, I hated that it was going to have to end and I’d have to drive back up north soon. The first week I spent with him, I drove to get some groceries and sat out in the parking lot to answer a question I had. “Do I want to get myself in this kind of relationship? Devote myself to a man that doesn’t take care of himself (terrible eating habits). Someone whom claims he wouldn’t even attempt to fight cancer if he ever got it (was basically okay with leaving this earth) and had a risk factor much higher than mine of leaving me alone once again and with nothing more than I came into his life with? Do I want to be pushing 60 and in this same situation..alone?” My answer was quite simple to every question I asked. Yes, I didn’t care about all that. I wanted to be with him, have him in my life, be it a day, a month, five years or until I die. I loved him and I loved being with him. Perhaps I was just a swooning fool to believe it would ever work out. The timing wasn’t the best.

I knew how I felt, he told me how he felt, I interpreted differently. Had only how I would feel, if I were to say those things to someone, to go off from. How I would act if I felt that way about another. Next time, I’m going to make sure they explain it, rather than to define, their words, on my own.

I can’t do a lot of activities that others may be able to do, I sleep with a mask on my face, my neck is fused and screwed together, I have high BP, I have days that I just don’t feel well, but I never let it define who I am as an individual. I also have four children that I love with all my heart. This man will have to be able to be a man that is able to appreciate that they are part of me and always will be. I’m a package deal, not a baggage deal. He’ll have to be a man who can see who I am and can also see what has driven me to who I have become, he will be an acceptable suitor. Why does it seem that so many people can not accept or respect one another’s feelings. “If one does not possess the same views, they are wrong, they are undesirable, they have no value”? I know he is out there, we just need to find each other. Then there is the “love” factor. We often have little choice as to whom we love.  Maybe I will find him, most likely I will not. I’d be okay with being the old lady with the all the cats………lol. At least they do not judge me by my flaws, only by the care and affection I give them. All they know for sure is that I love and feed them and I will prove to them over time that I am one who will honor my commitment to give them my heart, care for them and return the joy they give to me.

I have had the unfortunate pleasure of being on several different internet dating sites and I have a few things to share and a few observations about them, so click on the link to see what I have to say about the ones I have used. Sorry, no five star sites as of yet. Please note; My reviews are simply my personal experiences and opinions.

I have a few links below that may assist you as well;

Security – tips to keep you safer online.

Dating Profiles – tips and helpful suggestions to consider when creating a dating site profile. What do you want your profile to say about you?