It Even Sounds Nice
-I can appreciate this word quite a bit. I like to think of things that comfort me, the pleasant thoughts and ease of frustration put me in a more relaxed mood. When your feeling real low and someone puts their arms around you to give you comfort, doesn’t it make you more at ease. You can either let it all out or you can relax enough to process your thoughts and pull yourself together. I personally love hugs and it comforts me a great deal.
Some people get comfort from food. I call it eating your feelings. None of my kids seem to do this, which I am thankful, because I wouldn’t ever be able to have cookies or ice cream around. When my kids were little, I never gave them suckers or sweets for a reward for being good or to make them stop crying. I personally feel it teaches them to get comfort from food. I’m not sure if it did any good, but so far, I believe is has. It could be because I had a rule of no sweets or junk food before the age of two. I also nursed and the only one who ever had a bottle was the only one who likes to eat sweets when she’s had a bad day, but she’s size zero, so I guess she can get away with it.
Is comfort as we age related to what was a comfort when we were developing? Be it hugs, food, music, being alone or in a crowd, what comforts one person may not comfort another. Some can only find comfort in understanding. I find comfort by staying busy. If I stay busy, I don’t have time to think or feel the things that are causing me distress. When things are not done that need to be done, I’m not at ease. I think back as a child and I believe I did the same thing. I use to hate being alone, so I would insist that I go do things, even if it meant doing them by myself. I’d forget about being alone which was an unconscious comfort for me. I started this website to find comfort. It worked, I was alone and pushed myself to do something by myself and it made me feel better.
Comfort Yourself
Take a couple minutes every day and reflect on things that comfort you. Let yourself feel at easy and in a pleasant state of mind. Only think about the things you find comforting, not things that make you comfortable, two entirely different things. Think of things that comfort your mind, which will in turn comfort your body. Think of what your impulses are and what you do to comfort yourself without even knowing that is what you are doing. When your angry, what do you do? When your sad, what do you desire?